I don’t know about you but for me there are times when I just don’t want to accept an invitation, say yes to an opportunity or consider any alternatives to my routine, even if that routine is sitting on my ass doing nothing and getting fat. Hell, there are times I don’t even want to talk on the phone, answer personal e-mail or meet anyone for coffee or drinks. Sometimes I just say NO, don’t want to, can’t, not convenient or the inevitable postponement “not now let’s do it next time.”
Recently it dawned on me. I realized that when I decline, say no, or choose not to participate “just because” there is a cost. A cost that may not be immediately evident but, trust me, there is a cost. It could be an opportunity cost. The cost of missing out on an unforeseen or a chance meeting. A meeting that may influence you, broaden your horizon, enlighten, create clarity/insight or provide you with the opportunity to develop new relationships. It could be a cost created by the erosion of an existing relationship. After all, they will only ask you so many times.
But all that changes when you say YES. You will find yourself blessed with laughter, joy and possibly a life-affirming experience. Learning, engaged or becoming an expanded expression of who you are and what you have to offer the world. These are just a few of the many possibilities that only a YES can provide.
Is this the result every time you accept an invitation or say YES?. Not very likely, to think that or to have that expectation sets up disappointment. The expectation of disappointment is the cause of those ole faithful massive rationalizations that lead us to justify that knee-jerk response “NO”.
First and foremost say yes to the priorities in your life. Then schedule your other yes’s around your priorities and the commitments that are less movable
When you say no you unintentionally are closing in on yourself, Your world is shrinking behind walls of your making. Maybe more accurately walls made up of your well-crafted delusions and illusions. Walls crafted with the massive rationalization that my life is better with the devil I know rather than the unknown of what a potential YES would offer. Life is risky business and saying YES sets you on the path of a most rewarding and exciting life.
Say YES and show up expecting the unexpected ~ Think World Class